SCRIPTURE
- Many words that we use to describe sexual sins,
diseases and impurities are not found in the King
James Bible; it is necessary to look for other words
God used to describe these actions. You will find
words like fornication, adultery, effeminate, abusers,
Sodomites, sensual, carnal, concupiscence, inordinate,
lasciviousness, lewdness, filthy, blasphemy, murder,
killing, uncleanness, lust, passions, bastard, dreams,
prostitute, harlot, whore, and lovers of pleasure. A
study was made of the following words: ravished,
forced, shame, folly, lay, lie, defiled and some key
stories of the Bible.
Ravished
Isa. 13:16 - wives
ravished
Lam. 5:11 - ravished
the women and maids
Zech. 14:2 - women
ravished
Forced
Jud. 20:5 - my
concubine have they forced that she is dead
II Sam. 13:14, 22,
32 - forced his sister Tamar
Prov. 7:21 - with
the flattering of her lips she forced him
Shame
Ex. 32:25 - for
Aaron had made them naked unto their shame among their
enemies
II Sam. 13:13 -
shall I cause my shame to go; shalt be as one of the
fools
Isa. 20:4 - even
with their buttocks uncovered, to the shame of Egypt
Isa. 47:3 - thy
nakedness shall be uncovered, yea, thy shame shall be
seen
Jer. 13:26 - I
discover thy skirts upon thy face, that thy shame may
appear
Hos. 4:18 -
committed whoredom continually: her rulers with shame
do love
Mic. 1:11 - having
thy shame naked
Nah. 3:5 - I will
shew the nations thy nakedness, and the kingdoms thy
shame
Hab. 2:16 - let thy
foreskin be uncovered; shameful spewing be on thy
glory
Rev. 3:18 - that the
shame of thy nakedness do not appear
Folly
Gen. 34:7 - he had
wrought folly in Israel in lying with Jacob's daughter
Deut. 22:21 - she
hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore
Jud. 19:23 - seeing
that this man is come into mine house, do not this
folly
Jud. 20:6 - for they
have committed lewdness and folly in Israel
II Sam. 13:12 - do
not force me; do not thou this folly
Lay
Gen. 19:33 - the
firstborn went in, and lay with her Father
Gen. 30:16 - I have
hired thee with my son's mandrakes; and he lay with
her
Gen. 34:2 - saw her,
he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her
Gen. 35:22 - Reuben
went and lay with Bilhah his Father's concubine
Deut. 22:22, 25, 28,
29 - adultery, force her, virgin, humbled her
I Sam. 2:22 - how
they lay with the women that assembled at the
tabernacle
II Sam. 11:4 - she
came in unto him, and he lay with her
Eze. 23:8 - in her
youth they lay with her; bruised the breasts of
virginity
Defiled
Gen. 34:2, 5, 13, 27
- defiled Dinah; daughter and sister
Num. 5:13, 14, 20,
27, 28, 29 - adultery, spirit of jealousy, shall be a
curse
Deut. 24:4 - may not
take her again to be his wife, after that she is
defiled
I Chron. 5:1 - he
defiled his Father's bed
Eze. 18:6, 11, 15 -
neither hath defiled his neighbor's wife
Eze. 22:11 - hath
lewdly defiled his daughter in law; hath humbled his
sister
Eze. 23:17 - they
defiled her with their whoredom
Lie
Gen. 19:32, 34 - we
shall lie with him
Gen. 30:15 -
therefore he shall lie with thee tonight for thy son's
mandrakes
Gen. 39:7, 10, 12,
14 - she said, lie with me
Ex. 22:16 - if a man
entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her
Lev. 15:18, 24 - the
woman also with whom man shall lie with seed of
copulation
Lev. 18:20, 22, 23 -
shalt not lie with neighbor's wife, mankind, any beast
Lev. 20:12, 13, 15,
16, 18, 20 - in-laws, mankind, beast, sickness,
relatives
Num. 5:13 - a man
lie with her carnally
Deut. 22:23, 25, 28
- lie with a damsel: virgin, betrothed, not betrothed
Deut. 28:30 - thou
shalt betroth a wife, and another man shall lie with
her
II Sam. 11:11 -
shall I then go into mine house, and to lie with my
wife
II Sam. 12:11 - he
shall lie with thy wives in the sight of this sun
II Sam. 13:11 - come
lie with me, my sister
BIBLE
STORIES - God has given us some graphic
stories which illustrate what are abominations to Him
and what the consequences are of these sexual sins.
These are about Ammon and Tamar, Shechem and Dinah,
Lot and daughters, and Reuben and concubine.
Ammon and Tamar (II
Sam. 13:1-20) - Ammon loving Tamar, by Jonadab's
counsel feigning himself sick, ravisheth her. He
hateth her, and shamefully turneth her away. Absalom
entertaineth her, and concealeth his purpose. At a
sheep shearing, among all the king's sons, he killeth
Ammon. David grieving at the news is comforted by
Jonadab. Absalom lieth to Talmai at Geshur.
This is a sad story
of rape of Tamar by Ammon. Ammon lusted after Tamar,
let Jonadab help him set a trap, made himself sick,
asked for sex, forced her, hated her, put her out, and
was killed by Absalom's servants. Tamar reasoned with
Ammon before and after rape, proposed marriage, went
on crying, and remained desolate in Absalom's house.
Absalom hated Ammon, set a trap for Ammon, had him
killed, and fled the country. David was very wroth,
allowed Absalom to trick him, mourned for his sons,
wept very sore, and mourned for Absalom.
Shechem and Dinah
(Gen. 34:1-5) - Dinah is ravished by Shechem. He sueth
to marry her. The sons of Jacob offer the condition of
circumcision to the Shechemites. Hamor and Shechem
persuade them to accept it. The sons of Jacob upon
that advantage slay them, and spoil their city. Jacob
reproveth Simeon and Levi.
This is a sickening
story of Dinah being raped by Shechem. Dinah went
sight seeing, was taken and defiled, given in
marriage, and taken home again. Shechem lusted for
Dinah, took her, lay with her, loved her, asked for
her to be his wife, agreed to be circumcised, talked
the men into circumcision, and was slain. Hamor talked
with Jacob's family, offered dowry, suggested greed to
his countrymen, was circumcised, and was killed.
Simeon and Levi were grieved and wroth, were deceitful
and lied, slew all the males, took Dinah, spoiled the
city, and talked back to Jacob. Jacob held his peace,
agreed to marriage, was troubled, and afraid of being
slayed. The Shechemites were greedy for the
possessions of Jacob, agreed to circumcision, and were
slain.
Lot and Daughters
(Gen. 19:30-38) - Lot entertaineth two angels. The
vicious Sodomites are stricken with blindness. Lot is
sent for safety into the mountains. He obtaineth leave
to go into Zoar. Sodom and Gomorrah are destroyed.
Lot's wife is a pillar of salt. Lot dwelleth in a
cave. The incestuous origin of Moab and Ammon.
This is a sordid
story of incest or rape of the Father by the
daughters. Lot entertained the angels, pleaded with
the men of the city, offered his daughters for gang
rape, reasoned with his sons in law, lingered, feared
going to the mountain, feared staying in Zoar, went to
the mountain, got drunk, and was raped by his
daughters. The Sodomites compassed the house, wanted
to have sex with the angels, rejected the daughters,
were smote with blindness, wearied themselves to find
the door, and were destroyed with brimstone and fire.
Lot's son in laws did not believe him, and were
destroyed. Lot's wife looked back, and became a pillar
of salt. Lot's daughters feared not having a husband,
tricked their Father into getting drunk, raped him in
his drunken stupor, raised Moab and Ammon. The
Moabites and Ammonites were bastards created out of
incest, were cursed by God, and not allowed to enter
the congregation for ten generations.
Reuben and Concubine
(Gen. 35:22) - Reuben raped Bilhad, his Father's
concubine. Israel heard about it. Reuben lost the
rights of the firstborn. Why did Jacob need a
concubine?
THE CHURCH'S
RESPONSIBILITY - What is the responsibility
of the church: the five-fold ministry and the
congregation? The responsibility is to teach and
demonstrate to the world God's standards of morality
about sex before, during and after marriage. Has the
church done its job? It is apparent that the world has
affected the church more than the church has affected
the world. The sexual statistics of church attenders
is about the same as the people in the world.
Unfortunately, the church is afraid to teach the laws
of God to the congregation and what happens when these
laws are broken. They are afraid to minister in these
areas and to practice DELIVERANCE. The result is what
we see happening today in the area of sex, a
degeneration of morals of the people of the world.
This lesson is about rape and molestation, only one
area of ungodly sex.
STATISTICS
- The following is the results of a Ms. magazine
survey at 32 college campuses of 6100 undergraduate
women and men. 1 in 4 women surveyed were victims of
rape or attempted rape. 84% of those raped knew their
attacker. 57% of the rapes occurred on dates. 38% of
the women raped were 14 through 17 years old at the
time of their assaults. 41% of the raped women said
they expect to be raped again. 1 in 12 of the male
students surveyed committed acts meeting the legal
definitions of rape or attempted rape. 16% of male
students who committed rape and 10% who attempted a
rape took part in gang rapes. Only 5% sought
assistance at a crisis center, and 42% never told
anyone of their rape.
In Baton Rouge, over
half of all rapes committed go unreported. Most of
these unreported rapes are date/acquaintance rapes.
Ages of victims are predominately 17 to 35 but can be
at any age. Victim/assailant relationship is
predominately stranger (55%) but can be, relative
(5%), or acquaintance or well-known (41%).
Rape occurs every
seven minutes in the United States; this adds up to
over one million rapes a year. It is estimated that
1/3 to almost of all young people in the United States
are sexually assaulted by the time they are 18.
RAPE IS A
CRIME - Family violence is widespread.
Nearly a third of female homicide victims are killed
by their husbands or boyfriends. Almost 20% of all
murders are family related. In addition to the one
million reported cases of child maltreatment, there
may be yet another million unreported cases. The
victim needs medical attention in 20% of all
self-reported assaults by a spouse. At least one-third
of all reported rape victims know their attacker - he
was a date, steady boy friend, or casual friend.
Incest happens to at least 100,000 children and teens
each year.
Anal or vaginal
intercourse without consent is rape. Aggravated rape
is intercourse without consent involving threats,
weapons, or other factors. Forcible rape involves
force or threats of physical violence. Simple rape
involves psychological threats or when the victim is
not responsible for her actions (mentally handicapped,
intoxicated, etc.). Indecent behavior is a sex crime
which occurs when an adult has sex with a minor.
Carnal knowledge of a juvenile (statutory rape), which
occurs when an adult who is at least two years older,
has sex with a minor, who is over the age of 12.
Rape is one of the
nation's most under reported violent crimes. All women
are potential victims and it could happen at any time
because rape is a 24-hour-a-day crime. Rape is a crime
of violence and has nothing to do with sexual
gratification. Females must practice safety and use
common sense. Most rapists are repeat offenders. Myths
include that a girl feels she owes a guy sex after he
spends money on her on a date, or she feels she must
have intercourse if she gets him sexually aroused.
VICTIM
SUFFERS NO MATTER OUTCOME OF TRIAL - Sex
crimes are never easy to prosecute, even when evidence
strongly favors a conviction. Stranger rape is
difficult to prosecute; date or acquaintance rape is
even harder. Public perception also plays a major role
in the reporting and conviction of rape, especially
date or acquaintance rape.
CAMPUS
VIOLENCE - Most colleges keep silent about
crime, fearing bad publicity will worry parents and
drive away students. Campus security, lighting and
thick foliage are factors in preventing rape. There
are reports of harassment, acquaintance rape and
stranger rape. Female students may not report rapes
because they fear public exposure, peer pressure or
may feel responsible. Advice to female students: Don't
walk alone at night. Don't go alone on a date with a
guy you just met. Don't go alone to parties off
campus. Keep doors and windows locked and drapes
drawn. Report any suspicious men or activities to
campus police. Don't walk around with your Walkman on
your head. Have your ears geared to what's going on
around you. Don't meet a guy for five minutes and then
get in a car and go.
DATING
VIOLENCE - Date rape defined: rape by a
date or rape when a woman accompanies a man following
a chance meeting. Most people think that rapes are
committed by strangers. The majority of rapes,
however, are committed by persons known to the
victims. Studies on college campuses have found that,
by the time women are in college: 13% have been raped
(forced to have sexual intercourse against their
will), 90% were raped by someone they knew and 47%
were raped by dates.
Campus rape, gang
rape, date rape - a college experience no one expects
but coeds are learning, firsthand, nationwide.
Violence in relationships is not significantly less
for high school students than it is for college
students. More than 35 % had experienced some form of
abuse in their dating relationships - and that's in
high school. 15 year-old girls when attacked are more
likely to slap, push, shove or fight back than 20
year-olds. Younger women react instinctively.
Boys seem to turn to
violence as a way of dealing with problems. They think
the preferred response is to hit the girls. Youngsters
often receive mixed messages from parents and society
concerning violence. These are subtle impressions, but
impressions of how children grow up viewing life. It's
the fantasy, the romantic, which doesn't always hold
over to reality. There's a lot out there that equates
love and violence.
Date rape can be a
devastating experience for victims who may: feel
stupid for not recognizing that the dates had abusive
tendencies (even though the signs may not have been
present!), feel ashamed, guilty and depressed,
question whether their actions encouraged or gave
incorrect sexual messages to the dates, question the
trustworthiness of others, question their own ability
to judge others, have to face their assailants in
class or in social situations and fear entering into
dating relationships in the future.
PERCEPTION
OF RAPE - In one sense, the problem is that
there is so much consensual sexual activity between
teenagers who are 13, 14 and 15. Maybe this is giving
a message to boys that it's no big deal. There is an
attitude that forcing a girl to have sex is acceptable
behavior. There is a stark contrast in reaction to
date rape between the boys and girls. Often, boys and
men do not regard forced sex on a date as rape,
perhaps because it often goes unreported. There is
peer pressure to conform to the crowd. The amount of
sex that goes on at a very young age is alarming.
Why Rape? -
"Whatever we wear, wherever we go, yes means yes, no
means no" - a chant from a march protesting violence
against women. If a guy could be raped on a date, it
would be a whole different situation. Men make the
laws and men do the raping, and the women pay the
consequences. The way people react and blame the girl,
it's too scary to tell anyone, much less the police.
Embarrassment, self-blame, guilt, fear of punishment,
fear that parents, friends and police will not believe
her are valid reasons why a female fails to report
such a rape. It's hard enough for a woman to report a
stranger rape, so can you imagine reporting a rape by
someone she knows? Over half of the rapes committed
aren't reported.
After effects of
date and acquaintance rape, include physical injury,
pregnancy, abortion, anger, rage, guilt, suicide,
sex-related problems and possible loss of support from
family and friends.
Date rape and
acquaintance rape are enigmas in American society.
Society more easily understands the trauma for a woman
who is raped by a stranger. A stranger attacks
unannounced, and physically harms her, psychologically
paralyzes her.
Consider these
excuses prosecutors and crisis counselors said are
often used to defend a rapist. The woman asked for it,
she sexually aroused him, he was helpless. A guy can't
just turn it off. - She was dressed provocatively. If
she's in a mini-skirt or even sweat suit, in public or
on a date, she's asking to be raped. - The girl had
previous sexual intercourse. What made this rape? -
Men can read minds: she said no, but meant yes. - Men
can't read minds: How was he supposed to know her
struggles and tears meant she didn't want sex. -She
isn't bruised, she isn't hysterical. She's lying. -
She's hysterical, so how can you believe her? She's
lying. - She was drinking and smoking marijuana. She's
responsible for her actions. - He was drinking and
smoking pot. He's not responsible for his actions. -
Poor guy. He spent $50 on a date and all he expected
in return was sexual intercourse. When payoff time
came, she tried to short change him. He had a right to
take what was his.
THE GRIEF
PROCESS: Denial - Depression - Anger-
Bargaining - Acceptance. - The grief process is
associated with all serious crises such as death of a
loved one, accidents, divorce, as well as rape.
Being raped is like
riding an emotional roller coaster. One week you're
happy and the next week you start having nightmares
and visions of him again. It's not fun and it is a big
deal, a very big deal. It's very hard and takes a very
long time to get over. It produces guilt, anger, fear
and confusion. The rape is relived in night. It is
like a self-enforced hell. There are emotional and
psychological consequences of rape on victims.
Sexual assault is a
crisis, and we all handle crisis in different ways.
Some women go into shock after being raped, or
experience overwhelming fear, anger, shame, anxiety.
The emotional reaction to sexual assault is complex
and often confusing.
The fear and
confusion will lessen with time, but the trauma may
disrupt your life for a while. Sleeping and eating
patterns may change. You may experience dramatic mood
swings, find yourself becoming irritable and
short-tempered, and have difficulty making decisions.
Crying spells are another response to the crisis. The
psychological after-effects can last for years.
REACTIONS TO
SEXUAL ASSAULT - Emotional Shock: I feel so
numb. Why am I so calm? Why can't I cry. Disbelief:
Did it really happen? Why me? Embarrassment: What will
people think? No, I can't tell my family. Shame: I
feel so dirty, like there is something wrong with me
now. I want to wash my hands all day long. Guilt: I
feel as if I did something to make this happen to me.
If only I had... Depression: How am I going to go on?
I feel so tired and hopeless. Powerlessness: Will I
ever feel in control again? Disorientation: I can't
sit still. I'm having trouble getting through the day.
I'm just overwhelmed! Re-Triggering: I keep having
flashbacks. I wish they would stop. Denial: Wasn't it
"just" a rape? Fear: I'm afraid of so many things.
Will I get pregnant or get VD? Am I safe? Can people
tell what's happened to me? Will I want to be intimate
again? Will I ever get over this? I'm afraid I'm going
crazy. I have nightmares that terrify me. Anxiety: I'm
a nervous wreck! I have trouble breathing. (Anxiety is
often expressed in physical symptoms, like difficulty
breathing or muscle tension, sleep disturbances,
change in eating habits, nausea, stomach problems,
nightmares, bed-wetting.) Anger: I want to kill him!
HOW CAN I
HELP MY RAPED WIFE? - Rape can affect a
woman's feelings about sexuality for some time
afterwards. Some victims find that sex stirs up
frightening feelings which they associate with the
rape experience and are more comfortable if love
making is limited to holding and hugging. Other women
experience no difficulty in this regard,
distinguishing quickly between rape and consensual
sexuality, and might welcome their husband's desire
for intimacy. However, a husband must recognize the
possibility of temporary change in an intimate
relationship.
If your wife wants
to refrain from sexual activity for a while, it is
essential that you honor her wishes. Your wife's
attitude about sexuality may have an impact on you.
The love and concern you demonstrate during this
critical period can aid in recovery and strengthen the
bond between you. Your marriage can emerge stronger
for the experience.
WIFE RAPE BY
HUSBAND - Is it all right for a husband to
rape a wife? The answer is no! In some states, sexual
assault within marriage can be prosecuted. A spouse
can be charged with Aggravated Criminal Sexual
Assault.
POSSIBLE
WAYS TO AVOID RAPE - Avoid males who show
signs of aggression or resentment toward women,
emotional, verbal or physical abuse, unwarranted
jealousy, alcohol or drug use, uncontrolled anger or a
desire to control a female. - With a recent male
acquaintance, insist on going to public places or
situations where you know other people. Avoid isolated
places, including an apartment. - Set sexual limits
early on and communicate those limits. Be assertive
and direct when those limits are reached. Tell him
that while you like him, you do not like what he is
doing to you. - Stay sober and in control. If needed,
have a backup plan for a ride home. - Find out about a
new date. Don't leave a party or bar with a guy you
just met or don't know very well. - If confronted with
rape: stay calm, try to get away, yell for help,
attack forcefully if needed to stop the male, buy time
with talk, destroy his idea of a seduction.
RAPE OF BOYS
AND MEN - Boys and men can be raped or
molested by other boys and men. These are homosexual
acts which can be forcefully practiced on other
innocent males. They are generally practiced by men on
boys or men on men in prison. The reactions, feelings
and needs of sexual assault victims, whether male or
female, are very similar.
LIST OF
DEMONS FOR DELIVERANCE - See the list of
demons in the lessons, Sexual Diseases, Impurities,
and Demons; DELIVERANCE for the Subconscious Mind; and
Basic DELIVERANCE. The following are characteristics
that those that have been raped or molested may have:
Rape, Incest, Attempted Rape, Fondling, Helplessness,
Fear, Embarrassment, Guilt, Rage, Anger, Shame,
Terror, Horror, Devastation, Vulnerability, Confusion,
Violence, Hatred, Trauma, Frustration, Humiliation,
Withdrawal, Numbness, Loss of Emotions, Revenge, Pain,
Sorrow, Depression, Sleeplessness, Overeating,
Starving, Loss of Trust, Fear of Touch of Men, Fear of
Breaking Glass, Fear of Bedroom, Fear of Elevators,
Flashbacks, Fear of Death, Can't Look At Men,
Paralysis, Anxiety, Phobias, Stress, Fear of Sex, Fear
of Parking Lots, Fear of Sudden Awakening, Fear of Ski
Masks, Lack of Sexual Desire, Sexual Dysfunction,
Panic, Powerlessness, Victim, Sexual Diseases, Sexual
Injuries, Fear of Death, Loss of Self Confidence,
Fantasies, Deadness, Craziness, Loss of Sexual
Identity, Dirtiness, Sullied, Ruined, Spoiled,
Rejection, Abandonment, Loss of Sexual Identity,
Avoidance, Dissociation, Multiple Personality
Disorder, Brutality, Domination, Fright, Powerless,
Loss of Control, Shock, Disbelief, Escapism, Loss of
Appetite, Nightmares, Fear of Being Alone, Fear of
Crowds, Rape Trauma Syndrome, Lust, Depression,
Disorientation, Denial, Fear of Diseases, Nervousness,
Tension, Nausea, Bed-wetting, Murder, Killing,
Pressure, Repulsion, Upset, Violated, Degraded, Fear
for Safety, Threatened, Accusation, Judgementalism,
Blame, Infidelity, Promiscuity, Temper, Crying, Self
Hate, Inferiority, Worthlessness, Fear of Being
Killed, Loss of Control, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Genital
Herpes, Chlamydia Trachomatis, Venereal Warts,
Trichomonas, Gardnerella, Human Immune Deficiency
Virus, Fellatio, Anal Sodomy, AIDS
Note - The list
found in Sexual Diseases, Impurities and Demons is the
main one for DELIVERANCE from sexual sins. Other
related lists may be found in Effeminacy - Sins of
Sodom, Sexual Harassment - Abuse - Assault - Violence,
and DELIVERANCE for the Subconscious Mind.
REFERENCES
- The background for this lesson was taken from a
series of articles in the Sunday Advocate, Capital
City Press, Baton Rouge, Louisiana, October 29, 1989
and information from the Stop Rape Crisis Center and
Illinois Coalition Against Sexual Assault. National
organizations where help can be obtained are The
National Organization For Victim Assistance, Sunny Von
Bulow National Victim Advocacy Center, Parents Of
Murdered Children, Mothers Against Drunk Driving,
National Coalition Against Sexual Assault, National
Coalition Against Domestic Violence, National
Institute For Mental Health, and National Crime
Prevention Council. In Baton Rouge there are Battered
Women's Program, and Stop Rape Crisis Center.